Q: What are you?
You are a high school senior. You’ve worked hard to be Chair of the Math Club, Captain of the Football team, Head Cheerleader, chess champion, in the school play or the biggest social butterfly in school. It is all-good, but the moment you begin your first college application guess what you are? A: A college freshman.
Write your first college English paper with more than two personal pronouns (in any form) and the red ink will flow taking your grade down with each “me”, ‘my”, “I” and “mine”. I remember a particularly nasty blotch of red on my first English paper. “Who exactly is writing this paper Mr. Smith, oh wait I see ‘me’ is….C-. “ Want a C- on your college admission’s essay, over use those personal pronouns.
Here is the problem. You are eighteen or younger. Your worldview is your family, your school where you are the Big Cheese finally and maybe the volunteer work you do. Your life is sealed like a jar. There is nothing wrong with being like everyone else, but are you really? No way, you are unique. So first reason to not fall into the “I – Me” problem is you create positive differentiation. Remember, your reader knows you back three generations now. Admissions people know you better than you do. They know you are writing the essay don’t remind them.
The other reason to avoid “I – Me” is it slows your essay down. In working with a student this week I compared “I – My” to being tapped on the shoulder when you are concentrating on reading. The tap pulls you away from reading. You get focused again start to mentally project the essay you’re reading and POW "I-Me" taps you again. When I was reading admissions essays (1980 – 81) I allowed three taps after that your essay, the essay you worked so hard on, got a low grade and I moved on. Too much work, too little time and way too little writing expertise, so three taps and you are out.
Writing around personal pronouns is hard but not impossible. Here is an example of my writing from above:
I remember a particularly nasty blotch of red on my first English paper.
Now let’s write around the personal pronoun:
“Who exactly is writing this paper Mr. Smith, oh wait I see ‘me’ is….C-.”yes this was the nasty red blotch smeared all over this poor freshman’s first English paper almost thirty years ago.
Seems like this edit is wordy, but it collapses two sentences so it uses less words in the end. Long way to go to eliminate a single I maybe, but what would be your reaction to that nasty comment? Mine was to review my writing, count use of personal pronouns and cut them by half then half again. Before you read further count personal pronouns on your essay. More than two – REWRITE. Zero = Great.
“I – Me” Problem World ViewIn a matter of months being cool in high school + four dollars = Latte at Starbucks. You may have worked on high school cool for years. You are basking in its glow and now someone tells you it matters not at all. Sorry, high school cool in college is less than unimportant – it can hurt you. Approach this essay dripping any of that “LARGE AND IN CHARGE” cool on your essay and you’re done, you essay is hammered and you’ve broken the “do no harm” essay rule. If you haven’t read all my college diatribes the “do no harm” college essay rule says potential for your application essay to get you into college is small whereas the chance your essay will hurt is HUGE. Don’t do that is my advice.
Confidence is important. Over confidence gets you squashed like a bug in a rug. Confidence without specifics is groundless boasting. Back up any claim you make with who, when, what and how context and confidence can work. Confidence is factual with specifics is not boasting.
Expansive World Views and College Interviews Expansive worldviews in eighteen year olds are rare. 99 out of 100 essays broke the “I – Me” rule. 99 Interviews out of a 100 broke the “I – Me” rule. Q: What should you say to an admissions director in an interview. A: As little as possible and nothing EXCEPT context and specifics. An old boss of mine told me, “I’ve never seen anyone LISTEN their way out of a sale, but I have seen several TALK their way out.” Same is true in your interview. Here is a scenario. You are the 8th interview in a long day for an Assistant Director of Admissions. You sit down in my office and I ask you my opening question something like, “John tell me something about yourself.” What do you do?
Best option answer the question and immediately ask one. John might say, “I’ve been at Choate for three years, do you know Choate?” This is a great answer. You’ve brought a powerful part of your application to the front, you are attending a great prep school, and you’ve asked a question you know the admissions director will be able to answer in the affirmative. You are starting a conversation. Conversations have TWO parts. Ask your interviewer questions. Every question you are asked always contains a hidden question you should ask in return. Here is an example.
Admissions Director, “are you taking AP classes?” You think you need to answer and you do, but did you hear the hidden question? Here is a great response, “Yes I’ve scored a 4 on the AP History exam, I saw History is a powerful department at Vassar can you tell me more…..” trailing off into silence. DO YOUR HOMEWORK. Vassar doesn’t dabble in history it has world-class history professors. One thing you can do when you work in admissions is rattle off the stuff your college is word class in (in your sleep trust me). You (the student) control the interview when you play to your strengths, find and ask the hidden questions and have an expansive worldview.
If you talk more than you listen in your interview welcome to the waiting list. Admissions Directors are academic salesmen. They can riff their college in their sleep. Your job is to make an impression you do that with your ability to LISTEN. Why? Because every other candidate is busy talking. Talking is like your essay. You don’t talk you way into any college, but you can sure talk you way out. When I was an Assistant Director I had an undeniable Admit on paper. Male applicant (very valuable at Vassar) with a solid high school, 5’s on AP examines and perfect boards. ADMIT, ADMIT and ADMIT right? Wrong we wait listed him because he was psycho killer. He pulled his chair to where our knees touched. He hadn’t bathed in what smelled like days and he had a strange dialog going on never answering my question. He seemed unstable and crazy to me so I wrote 500 words describing all the reasons I would deny this clear ADMIT on paper. We made the paper with that reject as Vassar becoming more exclusive. Now this guy may be a Noble Prize winner as I write this, but for my college during my time he was all wrong. Vassar was just getting past the newness of having men graduate. I believed we would hurt our goal by admitting this student. My words really don’t do justice to just how clinically insane this young man seemed in that interview. I may have been wiling to step aside if his recommendations said he was good to go, but they damned him with faint praise (quick note if your faculty can’t RAVE about you don’t have them write a recommendation). He was out. Don’t make his mistakes. Bath, don’t invade the personal space of your interviewer, ask questions you are asked and ask the secret question always buried inside of every question you are asked.
Good Luck. More on college admissions interview secrets and the hidden question in every college application soon.